{"id":3258,"date":"2019-05-20T03:30:03","date_gmt":"2019-05-20T08:30:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/andreajoywenburg.com\/?p=3258"},"modified":"2019-05-27T18:36:14","modified_gmt":"2019-05-27T23:36:14","slug":"it-isnt-bragging","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/andreajoywenburg.com\/it-isnt-bragging\/","title":{"rendered":"It Isn&#8217;t Bragging"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This week\u2019s topic of bragging is a subject I see come up quite frequently when I speak with people about who they are, their identity, and how they show up in the world. In this episode, I talk about what bragging really is, why it comes up so often in my conversations, why being self-deprecating isn\u2019t ideal either, why we should strive to project humility instead of bragging or self-deprecation, the different between bragging and honestly sharing your excitement about something that is important to you, how we need to change the way we generally handle compliments, the importance of valuing the gifts of others as much as you value your own, and more!<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mentioned in this episode:<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\r\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.howtofascinate.com\/\">Fascinate Assessment<\/a><\/li>\r\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.gallupstrengthscenter.com\/home\/en-us\/strengthsfinder\">StrengthsFinder 2.0<\/a><\/li>\r\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/www.kolbe.com\/assessments\/\">Kolbe Indexes<\/a><\/li>\r\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/andreajoywenburg.com\/how-to-take-the-pressure-off-high-stakes-conversations\/\">Voice of Influence | Episode 90: How to Take the Pressure Off High-Stakes Conversations<\/a><\/li>\r\n<li><a href=\"http:\/\/andreajoywenburg.com\/books\/unfrozen-stop-holding-back-and-release-the-real-you-2\/\">My Book | UNFROZEN: Stop Holding Back and Release the Real You<\/a><\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">Play here (the red triangle below), on<span style=\"color: #800000;\"> <a href=\"https:\/\/itunes.apple.com\/us\/podcast\/voiceofinfluences-podcast\/id1223799516\">iTunes<\/a>, <a href=\"http:\/\/www.stitcher.com\/s?fid=135618&amp;refid=stpr\">Stitcher<\/a> or <a href=\"https:\/\/tunein.com\/radio\/Voice-of-Influence-Personal-Branding-p1009849\/\">TuneIn Radio<\/a> <\/span>(Amazon Alexa) or wherever you listen to podcasts.<\/h2>\r\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3260 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=760%2C422\" alt=\"Voice of Influence Podcast Andrea Joy Wenburg\" width=\"760\" height=\"422\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?w=810&amp;ssl=1 810w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=300%2C167&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=768%2C427&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=760%2C422&amp;ssl=1 760w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=518%2C288&amp;ssl=1 518w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=82%2C46&amp;ssl=1 82w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/andreajoywenburg.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/05\/92-Voice-of-Influence-Podcast-Andrea-Joy-Wenburg.jpg?resize=600%2C333&amp;ssl=1 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 760px) 100vw, 760px\" \/><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n<p><iframe loading=\"lazy\" style=\"border: none;\" src=\"\/\/html5-player.libsyn.com\/embed\/episode\/id\/9829514\/height\/90\/theme\/custom\/thumbnail\/yes\/direction\/backward\/render-playlist\/no\/custom-color\/ad2c30\/\" width=\"100%\" height=\"90\" scrolling=\"no\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\r\n<h2><strong>Transcript<\/strong><\/h2>\r\n<p>Hey, hey!\u00a0 It\u2019s Andrea and welcome to the Voice of Influence podcast where we talk about leadership, human dynamics, and service.\u00a0 I\u2019m really glad that you\u2019re here with us today.<\/p>\r\n<p>We are tackling a subject that I\u2019ve seen come up quite frequently when I\u2019m having conversations with folks about who they are, their identity, and how they show up in the world.\u00a0 And that is the subject of bragging. OK, so what I often hear when we start to have conversations with folks about who they are, what they\u2019re all about, their personalities, when we do the Fascinate Assessment or StrengthsFinder or the Kolbe with people, they tend to look at those and then come back and say, \u201cOh gosh, I don\u2019t really like to talk about myself, and I don\u2019t like to brag, but this really does kind of nail it.\u201d And I was kind of chuckle inside because it\u2019s really cute that people feel like it\u2019s bragging to talk about themselves in an objective kind of a way. \u00a0<\/p>\r\n<p>But there\u2019s a reason why we do this and I want to suggest that it has to do how we view and what we value in ourselves and in other people.\u00a0 So usually what happens is __, but first, let\u2019s define bragging.\u00a0<\/p>\r\n<p>Bragging is really about the attempt to make yourself bigger, more valuable, better.\u00a0 And then there\u2019s the other side of that and that\u2019s self-deprecation. Self-deprecation is also tends to be something of pride.\u00a0 There\u2019s something prideful in it because it\u2019s really about making yourself smaller or cutting people to the chase.\u00a0 So I\u2019m going to put myself down before you can put myself down, you can\u2019t put me down, or I\u2019m going to put myself down before you can put me down.\u00a0 That\u2019s what self-deprecation can tend to be about.<\/p>\r\n<p>Now, there are times that leaders or speakers can use self-deprecation lightly in order to get a laugh.\u00a0 But I always cushion that folks really shouldn\u2019t do too much self-deprecation, that\u2019s putting yourself down or making fun of yourself, because what does ends up doing is it puts in the mind of the listener that you\u2019re also doing that about them, that you\u2019re also looking down on them.\u00a0 And so, you really get to treat lightly on self-deprecation.<\/p>\r\n<p>But bragging is really about the attempt to make yourself bigger; self-deprecation is about making yourself smaller.\u00a0 Now, what we really want to be shooting for as leaders, as people who want to have a voice of influence is humility.\u00a0 And humility is really about being honest.\u00a0 It\u2019s about not really tying of value to your treats in comparison to others. \u00a0So because I\u2019m like this, I\u2019m better than, this other person who doesn\u2019t have that quality.\u00a0 So we don\u2019t do that when we are using humility.<\/p>\r\n<p>Humility is about showing up to offer the best of who you are and maybe considering how you\u2019re being perceived which is a loving thing to really consider other people in what they\u2019re thinking but not worrying about what other people think of you or your offering.\u00a0 If you were to do that, then that would be more fear-based and if you\u2019ve been around very long at the Voice of Influence podcast, you know that love and fear is one of those dualities that we talk about a lot.<\/p>\r\n<p>So if you are acting out of or if your motive is based out of fear, then you\u2019re not going to be able to be the best of who you are for others. Instead, you want to have a motive of love.\u00a0 And we talk about this a lot.\u00a0 I talked about this a couple of weeks ago in the podcast.\u00a0 So if you want to learn more about that, you can go back to that one.\u00a0 It was the episode 90, about High Stakes Conversations; you can go back to that if you\u2019re willing to learn more about love and fear.<\/p>\r\n<p>But anyway, so humility is really about being honest.\u00a0 It\u2019s about reality, about being clear, that\u2019s different than bragging.\u00a0 That\u2019s different than self-deprecation.\u00a0 In fact, someone with humility can celebrate and be honest and celebrate with others and say \u201cJoin in celebrating, I\u2019m so excited about this.\u201d\u00a0 Sometimes that happens, and I\u2019m one of those people that, I&#8217;m just kind of a sharer.\u00a0 Obviously, I have a podcast, so I tend to share a lot.\u00a0 But I also share a lot of things that are even personal things that are exciting to me or concerning to me, and I do that sometimes on social media.\u00a0 And when I do, I have to be careful to figure out \u201cAm I bragging, or am I being deprecating, or am I being honest?\u201d<\/p>\r\n<p>One of the most things that we can do is celebrate in just out of the moment that that happens inside of ourselves.\u00a0 Like the other day, we found out that Voice of Influence got a registered trademark.\u00a0 This is something that can take years, sometimes, to achieve and it\u2019s not really an achievement.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think, it\u2019s something that you\u2019re able to get, but once we\u2019ve got this registered trademark and we get to use the little \u2018R\u2019 with the circle behind the Voice of Influence, oh my goodness, I was so excited.\u00a0 In fact, I was overcome with the emotion, and I just kind of started crying, happy tears, because I think it\u2019s just surprised me, but I really felt this sense of both joy\u00a0 <span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">\u00a0and excitement,<\/span><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">\u00a0as well as the deep sense of responsibility it is to be able to utilize this praise as our own, _____ in United States. So, this sincere sense of celebration and joy just came out of me.<\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">And like I said, I\u2019m a sharer, not everybody is.\u00a0 I\u2019m not saying everybody should do this, but I would call it honest and humble.\u00a0 And not everything I do is, but I would call it this because it was simply me wanting to share our joy and invite other people to share in our joy because we have had so many people along the way who have helped us and who have encouraged us even from when, you know, we were younger. So, even on Facebook, you know, your parents, friends helped you grow up and they\u2019re watching and they\u2019re paying attention.\u00a0 They feel invested in who you have become and I know that about myself.\u00a0 So when I shared this, I just was like \u201cOh I just wanna share this fun, exciting news,\u201d and I want them to share my joy.\u00a0 And they did, and we had such a response, just people congratulating us and all this sort of thing.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Honestly, it didn\u2019t really feed my ego.\u00a0 It was an opportunity, instead, to just rejoice with others, to enjoy this moment with other people.\u00a0 It was a chance for me to connect in that sense. And I really believe in connecting, especially to do it authentically, especially when it\u2019s honest, when it comes out of you and you just want to connect with folks, or you just want to share something.\u00a0 That is honest and true and not necessarily bragging.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Somebody could look at that and say, \u201cShe\u2019s bragging.\u201d\u00a0 But I can\u2019t control how they perceive my post.\u00a0 I can\u2019t control how they perceive me.\u00a0 I can consider it.\u00a0 I can think about that and say \u201cYou know, if I say it like this, it might sound a little bit more like I\u2019m bragging, so I need to be careful how I say it.\u201d I\u2019d very carefully choose the word, \u2018share in our joy,\u2019 and it was just this sincere kind of celebration.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Well, that is different than saying, \u201cLook at me, look at us.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cMake us feel great.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cLike and share this with others,\u201d or whatever.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t that.\u00a0 It was just a sincere sense of celebration.\u00a0 That is just a quick example of what humility can look like when it might be perceived as bragging to somebody else.\u00a0 You really cannot control how other people think about you.\u00a0 You cannot manage what other people think about you. What you can do is you can be honest. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">So you know the subtitle of my book UNFROZEN is &#8220;Stop Holding Back and Release the Real You,&#8221; and I would say that that moment of sharing my joy about the registered trademark was a release of the real me.\u00a0 I wasn\u2019t holding back because, &#8220;oh no, what if I say this and somebody thinks this or that of me.&#8221;\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t at all.\u00a0 It was, &#8220;I\u2019m willing to share, because that is me.&#8221;\u00a0 Again, I\u2019m not saying that this is all about sharing and everything.\u00a0 You don\u2019t necessarily need to do that.\u00a0 But if you do, if you were to talk about something that you\u2019re excited about, that\u2019s not bragging. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">I think of people in my life in the past that I remember, like my mom having a conversation with a friend or whatever and they\u2019re talking about their meal.\u00a0 And \u201cOh, this was such a good meal,\u201d they would tell my mom.\u00a0 And my mom used to be so consumed with and just joy-filled with the idea of hosting people for meals because she loved to be able to cook exactly what other people love.\u00a0 So she would pay very close attention to what people ate or what people drank and she would be sure that she had it on the table the next time or had an option that\u2019s different the next time depending on if there was something that they like or didn\u2019t like. And she took so much care in providing that for other people and then she would have somebody say to her \u201cThat was such a great meal.\u201d\u00a0 And she \u201cOh, it wasn\u2019t that great.\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">You know what I mean?\u00a0 I mean, haven\u2019t we all done this?\u00a0 I certainly have.\u00a0 \u201cOh, it wasn\u2019t that big of a deal,\u201d or \u201cOh my goodness.\u201d\u00a0 Sometimes I do this, and it is the most offensive thing that can be because people are trying to give you a compliment and then you shut them down with \u201cDo not tell me that I\u2019m good at that.\u201d\u00a0 And I\u2019ve done this a lot, so trust me, it\u2019s everybody. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">But we don\u2019t want to feel like people are bragging on us or that we are bragging.\u00a0 We don\u2019t want to be perceived as a person who is bragging, but what if it really was a good meal?\u00a0 What would be the humble way to talk about that?\u00a0 If somebody were to give me a compliment and said\u2026I used to do this all the time with singing and someone might say, \u201cAndrea, that was a great job singing,\u201d you know this and that.\u00a0 And I would have such a hard time accepting that answer, and so I would either just kind of duck and say thanks or I would \u201cOh yeah, I messed this up,\u201d and \u201cI messed that up, but thank you, and I still kind of struggle with doing this sometimes.\u201d When people are trying to offer you a compliment and tell you something that is true about yourself, what we should do instead of, you know, putting ourselves down or making sure that they understand that we know that it wasn\u2019t as good as it could have been, we need to simply say, &#8220;Thank you.&#8221;\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">It\u2019s not bragging to say thank you.\u00a0 It\u2019s not bragging to admit the strengths of your personality, the strengths that you hold inside your gifts that you\u2019ve been gifted with.\u00a0 It is not bragging to admit that you are good at something. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">So, when I\u2019m going through an assessment with someone and they start to read it, they start to say \u201cOh my goodness, I don\u2019t like to talk about myself and brag, but this is true,\u201d\u00a0 then that gives me a hint that maybe they actually really value that thing that they\u2019re good at, and they don\u2019t value the thing that they\u2019re not good at.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Don\u2019t we all do this as well?\u00a0 That thing that we\u2019re particularly good at even though we might not recognize it, you know, there are possible that you don\u2019t recognize what you\u2019re really good at and you don\u2019t see that as being a big deal.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">The truth is that you want that quality, that you want everybody else to have that quality too, so someone who is particularly stable. One of those people that\u2019s like a bedrock in the community or a bedrock of strengths and stability in your company, you know, those people tend to feel like everybody else needs to be a rock as well.\u00a0 And they provide everything they can, and they give, and they give, and they give, and then they start to realize that not everybody else is doing everything that they\u2019re doing.\u00a0 Not everybody else is taking care of everybody else like they are.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Mom does this all the time, \u201cNot everybody else is taking care of the house like I do,\u201d or \u201cIs caring for people like I do.\u201d You know, when my sister and I were growing up, we were the ones that would have people over or invite people to do things. \u00a0Not everybody else is doing that.\u00a0 \u201cDo they not like me?\u201d\u00a0 \u201cThey\u2019re not inviting us to go do something.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cWhy am I the one that always invites people over?\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">We value, we care about that\u2019s what we\u2019re really good at.\u00a0 And the fact of the matter is that not everyone else is as good at it as you are.\u00a0 In fact, most people aren\u2019t.\u00a0 You are a sliver of the population that\u2019s really good at what you do, at what you are good at.\u00a0 And everyone else, they have other things that they have to contribute, but it\u2019s not the same thing as you. And the problem lies when we don\u2019t value what everybody else has to offer because then we think of ourselves as being better at this one thing, which means we\u2019re better in general because we value that more than we value what they\u2019re good at.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">So you have to be careful when you start to realize that this is what you\u2019re doing, and we all do this at times.\u00a0 We really do think that we all do this.\u00a0 But when you see yourself thinking that you\u2019re bragging when really you\u2019re just being honest about what is true, then maybe that bragging sense is not what everybody else perceives, but it what\u2019s actually going on inside of you, because you actually believed that you\u2019re better because of this thing that is true about you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">And what I want to suggest is that if you can see how other people contribute to you, and to your team, to your experience, and if you can value what they bring to the table, then you\u2019re going to more freely give what you have to offer.\u00a0 You\u2019re going to have the opportunity to say \u201cYou know what, this is what I bring to the table and not everybody else needs to bring that.\u00a0 In fact, I\u2019m going to provide what I\u2019m gonna offer what I do, what I bring to the table.\u00a0 I\u2019m gonna offer it.\u00a0 I\u2019m gonna keep offering it, and whenever everyone wants to partake, they can have some or they can enjoy my offering.\u201d <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">But that also means that we need to accept the offerings of others.\u00a0 And when we start to view each other not on a scale of \u201cYou know, I\u2019m a 9 and they\u2019re a 7 at this, so I\u2019m better,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019m consistent with this thing and they\u2019re not, and so I\u2019m better,\u201d \u201cMy personality is like this and this is how I act in the world.\u201d \u00a0And \u201cGosh, that feels really good because I really think that that\u2019s important.\u201d\u00a0 \u201cToo bad not everybody else is like that.\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">But we\u2019re able to say \u201cNo, no, this is what I bring to the world and it\u2019s fantastic!\u201d\u00a0 But this is what everybody else brings to the world.\u00a0 These are the other things that people around me bring to the world, not as just as important. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">There is no way to quantify the gifts that we bring. \u00a0There is no objective measurement of how important you are.\u00a0 If we try to put an objective measurement on how important we are as human beings, then we\u2019re going end up with this sense of bragging.\u00a0 We\u2019re going to feel like some people are bragging, and other people aren\u2019t, and we\u2019re not going to know what it\u2019s like to be truly honest and authentic because we think that it\u2019s all about bragging or not. <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Now, there are times, there are people who get paid more to do what you do, or they have more benefits, or you might see objective things that are happening that would seem to value what somebody else brings to the table more than you.\u00a0 But you need to take that out of consideration when you\u2019re talking about this stuff.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Instead, you need to go to a human level, on the human level.\u00a0 What we bring to the table is all valuable and important.\u00a0 The question is, are we bringing it or are you letting fear cause you to keep from bringing it because you\u2019re afraid that other people will perceive you as bragging? <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">Don\u2019t hold back out of fear.\u00a0 Offer who you are, bring the whole you to the table.\u00a0 We need you. \u00a0You are not the same as me.\u00a0 I am not the same as you and that is a beautiful thing.\u00a0 We need each other.\u00a0 <\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">If you want your team to feel like this, if you want your team to value each other, talk to me.\u00a0 Send me an email, my email is <\/span><a style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\" href=\"mailto:andrea@voiceofinfluence.net\">andrea@voiceofinfluence.net<\/a><span style=\"font-family: -apple-system, BlinkMacSystemFont, 'Segoe UI', Roboto, Oxygen-Sans, Ubuntu, Cantarell, 'Helvetica Neue', sans-serif;\">.\u00a0 I\u2019d love to hear from you, so schedule a conversation.\u00a0 Let\u2019s talk.\u00a0 Let\u2019s help your whole team value one another so that you can work better together in service to others because your voice matters.\u00a0 Let\u2019s make it matter more!<\/span><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This week\u2019s topic of bragging is a subject I see come up quite frequently when I speak with people about who they are, their identity, and how they show up in the world. 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